We've all been there - someone hurts us, and we hold onto the anger, resentment, or pain. It feels justified, even necessary. But what if we've been looking at these experiences all wrong? What if the very people who hurt us were unknowingly playing a role in our growth?
The Mirror of Life
The universe is not random. It operates on principles of magnetism and reflection, meaning we don't simply attract experiences - we attract what we need. If someone wounds us, frustrates us, or challenges us, it's not an accident. Their actions - however painful - serve a purpose in our soul's evolution.
This perspective shatters the victim narrative. It forces us to ask: Why did I need this experience? What strength, wisdom, or awareness was it meant to awaken in me?
We Are Not Separate
At the deepest level, we are not separate beings in opposition. We are one energy, interconnected and working toward a shared goal - evolution. The illusion of division makes us believe we were "wronged" but what if, before this life, we actually agreed to these painful moments?
Imagine this: You and the person who hurt you once existed together in a state beyond time, where your higher selves communicated. Together, you designed this very conflict - not as cruelty, but as soul work. They would play the role of the one who wounds, and you would play the one who overcomes. Both of you would grow. Both of you would evolve.
From this perspective, forgiveness is not about excusing someone's actions - it's about recognizing their role in your awakening.
Seeing the Unseen Purpose
The hardest truth to swallow is that our physical selves don't always understand what our higher selves know. We resist, we feel betrayed, we ask, Why me - but our energy body has already accepted the experience as necessary.
Even in extreme cases, like assault, this perspective challenges us. Of course, trauma is painful. Of course, it should never be justified. But can we acknowledge that from the ashes of the worst experiences, something powerful can emerge? A survivor who once felt voiceless now fiercely defends her boundaries. A person once controlled by fear now refuses to be silenced. The suffering, though real, delivered an unshakable gift - one that shapes their life forever.
Would we ever choose suffering? Of course not. But would we receive the lesson without it? That is the deeper question.
Releasing the Grip on Being "Wronged"
We cling desperately to the idea that we were wronged because it validates our pain. But the higher self does not see right or wrong - it sees transformation. It sees expansion.
So, we can stay mad. We can hold onto the belief that life has been unfair. Or, we can ask:
What did this experience give me?
How did it force me to grow?
What strength did I discover in myself because of it?
Pain is inevitable. But suffering? That is the choice.
The moment we release the belief that we were "wronged," we reclaim our power. We see every experience - good or bad - as part of a divine plan, perfectly unfolding for our highest evolution.
And in that realization, we set ourselves free.
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